Ok so I made a decision to work on my fitness driven partially to try to lose the weight I gained over my honeymoon and also by the realization that I can’t even finish a full set of glissades across the room before almost dying from a mini heart attack in my last trip across the room. I’ve been really good this week, I’ve been at the gym 5 times this week which is a total mile stone for me considering I am such a lazy bum when it comes to working out.

I’m also trying to keep my diet pretty clean with a high fibre diet and cut back on the sweets. Somewhat successful there. I love sweet food I have had a cookie every day and Friday (today) I let myself have whatever I want. Fridays are happy Fridays

Let’s see if I can keep this up. I’m hoping to see my stamina increase in ballet class and hopefully I will be able to complete a full set of glissades without gasping for breath and doing crazy flapping legs on the last set.

I had one of those conversations where you just the wrong thing at the wrong time and its like really awkward. And then the other person says “Ok. I am going to go now.” Yeah, one of those conversations.

Then, all my classes were total chaos. No computers worked (great.) and basically everyone was going mental and hyper. Basically all classroom management felt like had gone out the door. I was the ring master today and the lions were hungry!

So I was walking home, mentally kicking myself and trying to give myself some grace and tell myself that ‘yeah crappy days do happen.’ then struggle again with another onslaught of self depreciating thoughts.

And then I thought, “man, I wish I had ballet today.” When I am at ballet its one place that helps me clear my mind, focus on the task at hand and forget the things that have been bothering me that day. Its become my mental cave. The place I can escape and just live in that moment.

After a week off (and half a kilo heavier) I will be back in class tomorrow. I can’t wait! Now, to see how much strength I have lost in a week of lounging around the couch and gorging my face!

I have been experimenting with different recipes, and trying to bake some new items, and I have to say, the red velvet cupcakes are the best cupcakes I have made so far. I keep joking with James about starting a cupcake business (which is in fact among other things, my secret fantasy!) but for now, baking for a hobby and for friends will have to do.

Right now my favorite recipe is this natural, low fat, low sugar muesli bar recipe. Its soo good and jam packed with natural dried fruits and whole grains. I add a few extras to my version to it like flaxseeds and rye flakes, but this is one energy hit! I feel good eating it! No more store brought muesli bars for me anymore!

Buts its not all about desserts, I’m also exploring some whole food recipes, and basically just cooking more natural meals, which I am beginning to see is the best diet to have. Whole grains, less processed, high fiber but also low G.I is how I have been trying to keep my main diet. The more I can make my own food the better, and as a result I have been feeling the results of it: more energy, less lethargic, keeps your regular, less sugar cravings (I am not sure if these will ever go away!). Especially low GI foods, keep you fuller for longer as they take longer to digest and  don’t cause your blood sugar to spike causing those mid afternoon sugar cravings.

I went out to lunch with a colleague and I had baked rice… it was really high GI (actually most types of rice are high GI) and after lunch I was falling asleep then wanting something sweet to supplement. On my normal wholegrain sandwich, oat bran muffins and fruit that does not happen…

As I am looking towards my future family I am thinking about living sustainably, healthily, and simply. I would love to cook my own whole food meals, be more ethical in my consumer choices, be that in considering the source of my clothing (I would love to be able to sew my own clothes!) and buying local produce where possible etc.. and basically living more simply in general. Less stuff is better. James and I joke about wanting to one day live on a farm… now that is a cool idea!

Since James brought me a bread maker I have been having homemade multigrain bread everyday. Its the best thing! The smell of fresh baked bread in the morning, no preservatives or chemicals and oh so tasty! I think it maybe the bread is low GI so it is really filling plus is really helps my digestive system (makes me VERY regular). But its not only the bread  - I have swapped to eating wheat bran muffins (also home made) and also eat a lot of oats.

I was having a lot of digestive problems over the past few years and couldn’t figure out why, so once I changed to a high fiber diet the weight pretty much dropped off and now my clothes don’t fit! A good excuse to go shopping on Etsy I suppose!

This may not work for everyone, but definitely a high fiber diet has helped me maintain a digestive healthy system along side the weight loss. A high-fiber diet may also help reduce the risk of heart disease and diabetes. I fully recommend bread makers to everyone – they taste so good and great for a healthy lifestyle!

We managed to get most of the main items done within the first month all we have left is the suits, the bouquets and the wedding vows. Not bad at all I reckon!

The interesting thing about planning a wedding is that everyone seems to have an opinion or a suggestion about it, much of the advice I appreciate and some others I am left wondering if it is mine or their wedding I am planning. On the most part I am grateful.

But it is interesting to hear what other peoples expectations of a wedding should be, especially in a chinese cultured context. Things such as how I won’t be eating most of the night because I have to be a gracious host and talk to everyone the whole night, or how I need to set up time prior to take photos for everyone. Which leads me to think “Uh, this IS my wedding right…?” Then I am going to do what I want and how I want it, because basically it is my party! And for that matter I am DEFINITELY eating (come on its buffet and I am paying an arm and leg for the meal!) and if people want to take photos with me, well they can just come up and take a natural photo with me. I refuse to be like some cardboard cut out for people to take photos with! Those are just a couple of the funny things I have heard people suggest to me.

Nope. No fancy wedding at the Peninsula with 500+ randoms we don’t know, no bouquet toss (thats just mean when you are my age!), no polystyrene 5 tiered cake, no wedding photos taken 2 months in advance, no 3 dress change or me prancing around like a headless chicken trying to talk to all the guests. Just a big ‘ole party the way we want it!

The most important thing for James and I is that our wedding is meaningful and is special to us. So it doesn’t matter to me if its a bit eclectic in style (actually thats kinda what I like) and we play rock music and have pictures of our cats on our party favors, and everything is DIY – the point is it reflects us as a couple and we are with the people we love and care about

~ Andrew Peterson

At 28 I thought I would have more or less of life figured out. By the time I turned 30 I envisioned I would have it all together. My life would be straightforward and purposeful.

Life isn’t.

Life as it appears is incredible messy and complicated.

We are managing our lives with ‘to do’ lists and bills to pay, meetings to attend and emails to write. We manage our diets and our bedsheets. We keep on moving all the while carrying so many things in our life. Lugging around all the words and aspersions anyone has ever cast on us, with no place, it feels, to lay them down.

Where do you place the questions you carry?

The heartache and the joy? Your quiet worries? Where can you let yourself spill over into truth as messy and new and raw as it sometimes feels?

One of the hardest thing in life I believe, is laying down all those things that we carry. All those desperate attempts to save our selves from heartache, idleness and self contempt. We cover our true and messy selves with as much charisma and articulation we can muster. We carefully build a glamorous window into our life for others to see and hope people are happy to window shop. And we have become experts at keeping them out.

I believe we must begin to unravel ourselves. We must unwind the tight little ball we have worked ourselves into and release it to God, knowing He will not solve all our problems straight away but He is in the process of untangling who we are becoming.

At 28 years old I am realising life is a rather messy place but I am learning that that’s ok.

I am not aiming for a pretty life, I am aiming for release.

The feeling can be the most exhilarating thing in the world but firstly one needs to find the wave, and then secondly be able to catch it. Both of these also require some skill. This has led me to the conclusion that if writing was what I did to earn a living, I would in fact not be able to pay my bills. And I can completely forget about pro surfing for that matter as well.

I do actually enjoy writing. I like the meditative nature of it. The in and out, the twisting and turning, the typing and deleting of vague thoughts into actuality. Its all very therapeutic.

But so many things stand in the way. They purposely distract me from the stillness, from focus. Sleep, TV, Facebook, work. They cry out for attention like a baby that needs to be fed. Some days I just can not bring myself to write anything.

The thought of having to think and to articulate tires me. I sit at my computer well intentioned, with all the right tabs open and its like having ADD. I’ll remember that I haven’t scooped the cat litter today, I should call the dentist or I’ll think about the last conversation I had and daydream what it would of been like if I had said something funnier or wittier. Or even vaguely helpful.

I’ve been reading ‘Bird by bird’ by Anne Lamott and she recommends breaking the task down. Just write about one thing, write one paragraph and that’s all you need to attempt. Just get something down. Don’t worry if its messy, incoherent or rambling. Just get it down and fix it later. Messiness is what first drafts are for. So this, I am going to try.

~ Anne Lamott

Outside my window beyond tall buildings I watched the sunrise and puffy clouds turn from gray to white.

For the first time in a long time I heard only silence and soft twitter of the first birds.

And in that moment I felt He was here beside me watching the sunrise, and I did not feel so alone.